There’s no shortage of brides making unreasonable beauty demands of their wedding party and guests, like ordering bridesmaids to postpone everything from pixie cuts to breast implants. That’s a lot to ask of a friend, but the latest viral example of a brides’ outrageous sense of entitlement may be the worst yet, especially considering the unreasonable request is being made of an estranged friend who wasn’t even invited to the wedding.
Brides reports that screenshots of a conversation between an unnamed bride-to-be and a no-longer-close friend named Jessie have gained a great deal of attention thanks to posts on Imgur and Reddit’s ChoosingBeggars board in late May. The bride starts out with a friendly “Hey Jessie! Long time no talk. How have you been?” and quickly shifts gears to say, “Sorry to hear about your parents. Sorry I didn’t get in touch at the time.” But after a crying-face emoji and without even waiting for a response to the apology, the bride launches into asking for a favor: “So I’m getting married (third times the charm) and I’m looking for a makeup artist. Are you still practicing and would you be free? It’s only a small event and I don’t have a huge budget.”
Jessie responds with a friendly tone despite the casual apology for something seemingly serious and immediate request for free services. “Hi [name redacted]. Wow blast from the past! I’m okay, how are you doing? Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials. You must be excited!” Jessie then seems to try to let the bride down as easily as possible, telling her she’s busy opening a salon in London and suggesting it may be easier for the bride to choose a makeup artist who lives nearer by.
The bride attempts to state her case for getting the free “50s style” makeup she wants, saying, “Yea, I thought about getting a local makeup artist but like I said, I’m on a limited budget. Was hoping to get a friends discount,” followed by a laughing emoji and reasoning that’s somehow supposed to appeal to Jessie: “It’s only a 3 hours drive for you to get here and you could come to the wedding if you wanted.”
Not exactly an offer a professional makeup artist and estranged friend can’t refuse, right? But Jessie doesn’t flat-out reject the bride just yet, amicably explaining how much she typically charges for her services. “I’m sure I could reduce it a little for a friend but I’d need my travel covered,” Jessie says, noting that she’s not even sure she’s available the day of the wedding.
That’s when the bride clearly starts getting offended over not getting what she wants. “You really charge that much?! That is a lot of money!! I was hoping you would offer to do it for free… maybe as a wedding present to me.” You know, for that wedding Jessie wasn’t even invited to until it was just thrown out as a perk of doing the bride’s makeup for free. It’s such a perk, in fact, that the bride doesn’t see why she’d pay for transportation if Jessie ends up attending the wedding. “I don’t feel like your being fair,” the bride says, claiming it should be payment enough to get to use the resulting photos for the makeup artist’s portfolio.
Jessie understandably gets right to the point and stands up for herself. “We haven’t spoken for 10 years and the first time we do you’re texting me to ask me to do your MU for your wedding for free… I appreciate you don’t have a lot of disposable money at the moment and if I lived closer I’d try to help,” she explains to the bride. “I’m sorry but I’m not going to be able to do your MU for you. If you want I could send you some links to YouTube videos that may help you do your own style. I hope you have an amazing wedding and a beautiful marriage with [name redacted]”