Venmo is the best for things like splitting utilities with your roommates and the brunch check with your hungover friends, but what about sending a wedding gift? For some young newlyweds, it’s the easiest way to accept cash that would have otherwise come via check—no out-of-the-way trips to the bank! But for others, the move is tacky. (In the words of one bride we spoke to: “It seems like an afterthought.”)
Either way, more and more couples are soliciting Venmo transactions by adding their usernames to their wedding websites alongside their registries. Brilliant—or tasteless? We asked eight brides to weigh in on if they’d be down with getting Venmo’d moola after they say “I do.”
“Any money is welcome! And to be honest, opening glittery card after glittery card is a pain and messy. The fact that you’re giving a gift outweighs the form it comes in—even if that means your heartfelt message is just some bride and groom emojis. Not mad about it.” —Ashley O.
“How are you going to complain when someone is giving you money? You already know it’s the easiest way for you to receive cash, why not also let it be the easiest way for them to part with it?” —Madison V.
“No one did this for me, but I would have liked it!! It’s so much easier than depositing a bunch of checks.” —Isabella B.
“I got a Venmo gift and absolutely loved it. Why waste paper with cards and checks when you can literally get a lovely, witty message right in the app and have the money transferred to your account that day? Honestly, it’s so much easier than a Honeyfund-type setup and no service fee for your guests! Also, it keeps the record of the transaction and the note, so you know you’ll be able to easily track your gifts for thank-you cards later.” —Rachel T.
“One friend’s wedding website said they preferred a donation to their ‘buy-a-house’ fund and provided their Venmo information on the site. I found it tacky and I probably would find it tacky to receive a Venmo gift—gifts are about thought, and sending a cash gift over Venmo is pretty ubiquitous at this point.” —Michelle R.
“We do all sorts of inconvenient, old-fashioned things to celebrate weddings because the celebration is a fun break from our everyday lives—paper invitations, showers, and registries come to mind. Venmo isn’t special enough to mark the occasion! And frankly would piss me off.” —Gina R.
“A wedding is such a special and meaningful moment in your life, and if you’re getting money from a friend, I’d expect it to be gifted in a card. I look at Venmo as a place where I pay my friends for what I owe them or vice versa, not for gifting. Venmo is so casual, it’s like saying, ‘Let me put no effort into giving you a gift.’ It seems like an afterthought.” —Abby S.
“A wedding gift is not the same as splitting a burrito dinner at Moe’s! I would definitely say that’s too casual, but maybe I’m old-fashioned.” —Chandler H.