Pamela Jane Hinchman and Ted DeDee are to be married Sept. 8 at the Four Seasons Hotel in Chicago. Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg is to officiate.

Ms. Hinchman, 64, is an opera singer and professor of voice at Northwestern. She graduated from Cleveland Institute of Music and received a master’s degree in music from Curtis Institute of Music in Philadelphia. She is the daughter of the late Isabel Hinchman and the late Bruce Hinchman, who lived in Erie, Pa.

Mr. DeDee, 69, is the president and chief executive of La Jolla Music Society, an arts presenting organization. He graduated from the State University of New York at Fredonia. He is the son of the late Gladys M. DeDee and the late Edward D. DeDee, who lived in Rochester.

The bride’s two previous marriages ended in divorce. The groom was a widower.

The couple met in October 2015 at the Overture Center for the Arts in Madison, Wis., where Mr. DeDee had been the president and chief executive. Ms. Hinchman had traveled from Chicago to see a student perform there and was pleasantly surprised when a friend introduced her to Mr. DeDee.

Despite running in similar music circles, the two had never met. Upon getting to know each other, they realized they had been orbiting one another for decades, only to meet at the very moment they were both single and ready to date.

“I was done with marriages,” Ms. Hinchman said. “I had so much drama in my marriages when I was younger.”

But not long after a girlfriend had persuaded her to put herself out there again, she met Mr. DeDee.

“I let myself be open to the possibility,” she said.

Ten months earlier, Gail DeDee, Mr. DeDee’s wife of 42 years, had died. He was just beginning to consider the idea of dating again.

“The thought crossed my mind that if I were to ever to find someone again, it would have to be somebody who understood the arts and had an appreciation for music and a desire to go to concerts with me, attend Broadway shows or gallery openings or kind of speak the same language,” Mr. DeDee said.

The next weekend Mr. DeDee drove to Northwestern to take out Ms. Hinchman on their first date. A little nervous, Ms. Hinchman enlisted a few of her female music students to help her pick out a dress and scope out her suitor when he picked her up at the studio.

Mr. DeDee arrived a bit early and decided to sit in on Ms. Hinchman’s lesson. Listening to one of the students perform, he noticed how much the students admired their teacher.

Both were rusty when it came to first dates. Ms. Hinchman described the beginning of their time at a French restaurant as resembling a job interview.

“He was like, ‘This is who I am and now tell me about you,’” Ms. Hinchman said. “But I had nothing to say.”

Fortunately, Mr. DeDee had done his research and asked about grants she received to teach music in third world countries. With the topic of music driving their conversation, they spent three hours bonding over their shared love. They discovered too many coincidences of having friends and students in common and realized that Mr. DeDee had seen Ms. Hinchman perform opera at the Tennessee Performing Arts Center in Nashville.

Every week that followed Mr. DeDee would drive to Illinois to see Ms. Hinchman, sometimes Ms. Hinchman would take the train to see him. They email between visits. The two met each other’s friends and families and soon their communities seamlessly blended together, all with the common thread of music.

Their wedding ceremony is to feature several performances from friends and students. And the women who were there to witness the first date are to be Ms. Hinchman’s bridesmaids.

Like the principles of music, their relationship adhered to the rules of rhythm and tempo — each milestone falling into place when it was mean to.

“We could have met earlier,” Ms. Hinchman said. But luckily their lives intersected at “a perfect time,” she added.

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